Mother’s Day is getting out of hand. And it has moved beyond its original intent. It is time to rethink it.

Why is ‘reading the room’ a good thing? Is it another way we take too much responsibility for other people? What about being an initiator? There are ways we are carrying the burden for other people that are not ours to carry.

These books have helped me the most as a chronic people-pleaser and conflict-avoider.

Are you really sorry? We have a default mode of apologizing for everything. It can start to affect us in ways we might not be aware. People-pleasers can struggle to be unapologetic. What would change if you started to let other people decide if they were upset, hurt or offended?

Ruth Denyer wrote this post on how creating a manifesto helped her with boundaries. It includes a list of considerations and inspiration to help you overcome people-pleasing

What do people mean when they say, ‘don’t take it personally?” How else can you take it?

People-pleasing was like bindweed running rampant in my life, wrapping itself around so much of what I did that I couldn't flourish. Reading The Myth of Normal, I can see how it didn't just stifle me spiritually and emotionally but had physical consequences.