You have to start in the centre - reclaiming who you are
When did you stop trusting yourself? When did pleasing people take over your life? How do you find your true self without hurting the relationships you value?
Start on the inside and walk out, turn by turn.
Then you will experience real change,
confront your own fears and anxieties
and begin living a life where what you do is aligned with who you really are.
It's not easy!
I spent over twenty-five years as a pastor's wife before I found myself outside the church asking a lot of big questions. I was caught up in a system where I was trying to live a life that would please everyone else. I finally stopped trying. I started asking:
"How do I start aligning my life so I am living with integrity?"
Anyone who has been in a spiritual crisis knows it is not easy to sort these things out. There are issues of shame, emotional pain, guilt and a crisis of integrity just to name a few areas of struggle! Even if you don't consider yourself in a spiritual crisis, deep work is always spiritual in nature.
Are you afraid that you will hurt the people and/or institutions you once cared about?
And at the same time do you feel like you just can't keep pretending?
It took me close to seven years to really get to a place where I felt whole again. Where I really knew who I was and I was willing to risk the disapproval of other people so that I could live my life.
For many years I hid in the corporate world where I could use my skills in leadership development and adult education in a context where questions about faith, spirituality and belief were not part of the curriculum. And I continued to sort out my own beliefs in the context of spiritual direction, therapy and lots of Happy Hour gatherings with friends.
It was a long and winding road and I am in a place in my life now where I feel ready to help other women who are on a similar journey. And I know there are many of you. I meet you all the time.
Are you tired of feeling like you aren't pleasing anyone - especially yourself?
Are you in a spiritual crisis?
I've created an accessible spiritual coaching package to support you in this process. It's hard work but you will look back in a few years with deep gratitude towards yourself for being willing to step outside of your comfort zone so you could become the person you really are.
I work with you to help you:
- Identify beliefs that are holding you back
- Explore practices that support your changing beliefs
- Heal from trauma from religious experiences
- Connect to your authentic self
- Consider what healthy and healing community can look like now
Is it time to start looking at how you can move forward with integrity? Is it time to start listening to that 'still small voice' within you? Maybe it's time to experience the peace that comes when you finally stop worrying about what others think and start living what you really believe and know to be true. It's time to start living authentically.
I can help.
And...can you help me?
I create content, share resources and help women who have become entangled in people pleasing, religous systems and other places that are keeping them from living authentic lives. I'm looking for women who want to support me in this process. You can find out more here: