July 3, 2011
Looking for gift ideas?
A great gift we can give to others is to be able to trust in them—that they have their own source of guidance and wisdom, that they have the ability to discern what is best for them and the right to find that path by making mistakes and learning.
from The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie
April 4, 2011
Bigger Kids = Bigger Problems
That’s what someone onc
e told me along with the advice, “Enjoy them while they are young!” At that time I hadn’t slept for 6 hours straight in days and had no idea if I would ever be able to sit quietly and read a book. They were right of course, and here I am now out with my son, looking at purchasing his first condo/loft. Wow!
With a suitable place discovered the conversation now is ‘what do you think I should do?’ I have no idea! There are ups and downs to all of these decisions. Mortgage rates, property values, underemployment – all of these can impact his investment. On the other hand, getting into the housing market at a young age can be a great way for him to begin building his own investments, etc.
With one of my kids getting married and one looking at purchasing property I realize that much of life is a crap shoot. Like me, they will have to make decisions based on the best information possible. The reality is that people change, markets change, they will change and what seemed like a good plan now might have them scratching their heads in a few years.
What I can tell them is – life involves takings risks and leaps of faith. Sometimes you need to make a decision and go for it. That’s what most of us do when we decide to start a family!
September 26, 2010
Messed Up
Yesterday I had conversations with two women in their early 20′s. Both of them feel a little messed up. They seem to think that there are answers and they should have things all figured out by now.
I assured them that life is messy and part of growing means being in uncharted territory where you don’t have the answers.
If you think you’ve got it all figured out you are probably not growing. The older I get the more questions I have. I have very little confidence in people who claim to have the answers.
Feeling messed up? Welcome to the club.
July 29, 2010
Being Selfish
Recently I have become aware of how often I do things because that is what I think other people want me to do. I have been learning to speak from the ‘I’ here at RRU. I am looking at what I want. It’s hard for me to make this shift – not that I was altruistic. The motivation has been often driven my a desire to be liked.
I am trying out this ‘I want’ stuff right now. I want to focus on the things that bring me joy. I know that will mean some changes and I am ready for them!
March 2, 2009
Releasing
It is hard to let go of people and things. I’ve had to do a bit of releasing lately. Today it was our 14 year old Dodge Caravan that finally bit the dust. In the last month I’ve released my son on a solo road trip. I’ve released someone who hurt me by forgiving them – even if they don’t know how much they hurt me.
I’ve gained a lot in the release. Confidence, peace of mind, trust, and a smaller carbon foot print.
What do you need to release?
What will you gain?
