For many years, so many that I have lost count, I have chosen a word or a phrase for the coming year. Usually, the word comes to me quite easily. I have a definite process that I use that I have blogged about in the past. This year, unlike any other year, I have struggled to find the right word. I have been reflecting on why it was so difficult and I have identified a few. If you are having challenges with your word here are somec reasons why you might not be landing on the word that resonates with you on a deep level.
You haven’t resolved something from the past year. The past few weeks I have had an opportunity to resolve a situation that was weighing me down. As I got closer to resolution and letting go of that situation, I found myself getting clearer on what I wanted for 2016.
You haven’t reflected on what brought you the most joy in the past year. Sometimes, when I am choosing a word I spend a lot of time thinking about what isn’t working in my life. When I get too focused on what is wrong, I fall into a reactive mode instead of a proactive mode. When I focus on what is bringing me closer to feeling the way I want to feel, I get clearer on what I really want in my life.
You aren’t done with your last word! I recently listened to the audiobook of Shonda Rhimes, Year of Yes. As she went through her year of saying YES to things she had habitually said NO to in the past, she realized that she needed more than twelve months to focus on her word. Don’t feel pressure to let go of a word that is still serving you.
You aren’t ready. Sometimes the word is there, but for whatever reason, you aren’t ready emotionally or spiritually to embrace it. Trust the process. Wait. Live without a word for a while - it is possible! When the time is right and you are ready, you will find your word.
I chose the word ‘connect’ this year. I want to spend more time connecting with the people and experiences that inspire me and help me to be the best version of myself. My default mode is independence and the word connect has enough of a challenge in it that I believe it will pull me out of my comfort zone and into a place of growth.
I am curious to know what are some other reasons you have encountered that have challenged your when choosing a word?