I just finished reading Brene Brown’s latest book, Rising Strong. I think I liked it more than any of her other books. I am now in the process of going through it and transcribing all the quotes, notes and other highlights I’ve made in the book. I didn’t get very far before I started writing this blog post!
In the Introduction to the book Brene writes about a question her husband asked her: What’s your vision for your career. Her answer? I want to start a global conversation about vulnerability and shame. Wow! I love the vision. I love how it is so big and bold. I love how she doesn’t actually get bogged down in how that will happen.
I put a note beside it – a question to be answered. What is my vision for my career? I’m thinking about it. I know learning will be in the answer and I am going to do some serious reflection on that question. How about you? What’s your vision for your career?
I think the desire to live simply has been a theme of mine for many years. I haven’t always been successful at it – as a friend of mine pointed out I am the only person she knows who could amass a shelf full of books on living simply. The irony is not lost on me. But I keep plugging along, finding myself drawn to explore this slow and simple lifestyle my heart desires. I visited my first Tiny House last week and I was as impressed as I thought I would be and a little jealous. Kudos to people who are being so kind to the environment in their housing choices!
Recently I started following the blog, The Minimalists. I have taken on their 30 day Minimalism Game this month and so far so good. As I have been going through books, I have discovered a way to sort out the books I want to keep and at the same time indicate to my kids, on some future date, what books were important to me. I’ve been writing the word “foundational” inside the cover of the book. There are very few books that I revisit over and over again. There are very few books that have made such an impact on me that I feel to fully understand me you need to read these books. But there are some. As I go through my books, I have three piles: 1) books that I reference for my work and need to keep; 2) books that I have read and don’t need to keep; and 3) books that are foundational.
What books do you consider FOUNDATIONAL?
I’ve heard people say that we should stop aiming for perfection. In a world where products launch in Beta and things change rapidly, the most we can do is do our best in any given situation. I’ve been really busy these past three months and as I wind down several projects where “Good Enough” was all I could do given time and other resource constraints, I have been reflecting on the outcome. I’ve been reflecting on how I experienced my work during and after those projects were completed.
I don’t think “Good Enough” feels that great. I want my work to be excellent. I want to feel like my clients are extremely happy with the results they get. I want to feel like the things I commit to in my personal life are done really well so I can feel proud of the end result. I’m rethinking the wisdom in “Good Enough”. It seems to perpetuate and excuse overbooking, under delivering and mediocrity. On the other hand, I understand that if we wait until things are perfect we may never get things done.
How do you strike the balance between ‘Good Enough” and “Perfect”?
I have one more deadline and then I have time to breathe again. It has been a crazy three months. Most of the crazy has been one client and multiple projects. One of those projects really stretched me. It was the source of most of my crazy feelings in the past few months. I had to enlist the wisdom of all of those people closest to me to understand why I felt so stretched. I realized that I was being pulled in a new direction.
Do you ever feel a change coming on? You are not sure what it is but you feel unsettled in your soul? You are dissatisfied with the current state of your life? You have this longing and you aren’t even sure what it is yet? I’m there (again). I usually know I am in this state when I start getting an itch to organize. Sometimes it is a new planner or a new purse. Sometimes it is rearranging furniture or cleaning up files on my laptop. I stumbled across this book and it is feeding that urge to tidy and organize. I’m really enjoying it and judging by book sales (2 million sold!!) I am not alone.
These pictures are of my drawers. Scarves, T-shirts and pants. All folded using the ‘KonMari’ method. I love the idea of decluttering, organizing and appreciating what I have. This book will have you talking to your socks!
What are the signs in your life that you are due for a change or entering a transition? What tools do you use to help you through those times?
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Wikipedia describes a crone this way:
The crone is a stock character in folklore and fairy tale, an old woman. In some stories, she is disagreeable, malicious, or sinister in manner, often with magical or supernatural associations that can make her either helpful or obstructing. The Crone is also an archetypal figure, a Wise Woman.
I like the facet in that definition of being a wise woman. I don’t think having a magical or superpower is such a bad thing either. Maybe in future episodes of the X-Men there will be a Crone. Maybe there already is a character with that name – I must confess I am not that up on the X-Men beyond the Hollywood movies. I am working hard on understanding the imagery around ageing in our culture.
The being older thing creeps up on you. One day you are getting carded at the bar and then suddenly you are getting carded for the senior’s discount at the drugstore. I forget that the outside, the physical body, doesn’t match up with the way I feel inside. I forget how old I am and at times I fail to act my age (whatever that means). I think that is why so many of us have been enjoying the Netflix series Grace and Frankie. Here are two women, in their seventies, who are vibrant, have style and are living very full lives. If figuring out how to be a woman is a challenge in our world today, wait until you get to figure out how to be an older woman!
I am almost finished reading Anne Lamott’s latest book and I can tell you don’t wait for my review. Grab a copy now and start reading this book. You won’t be disappointed.